You stood in the aisle at Walgreens for forty five minutes wading through gold foil and pink glitter, sacharine-sweet cards with truthy sayings alternating between the extremes: “You’re the best mother who ever lived ever in the history of the world.” and “I’m sorry I never say it, but you’re a decent mom.” And still you emerged with something you’re not totally embarrassed about. Way to go!
Now you have to write in it. For real. You MUST write in it.
If you’re not sure what your wife needs to hear, perhaps you’ll consider the following list. It grows out of conversations with mothers of young children and just might put into words the way you really feel about your wife.
If my husband says any of these things in my Mother’s Day card, I’ll be jello…
1. I’m proud of you. I can’t believe you married me.
2. You do good work. Everything you do for this family is valuable and important. In a rational universe moms like you would drive Bentleys.
3. You are beautiful. Even with baby puke on your shirt.
4. I can’t believe how much you have to deal with. You are patient and full of joy. Way to persevere! (P.S. How could I be more helpful?)
5. I see God in you. He works through you every day to bless me and our children.
6. Our kids have beautiful hearts. They get that from you.
7. Thank you for always doing the laundry. Laundry is terrible. You are a magical fairy.
8. I’m so glad you don’t care about laundry. I love your priorities.
9. I would starve without you. You are a wonderful cook! (But if you want me to cook more I’d be happy to.)
10. You make me want to be a better dad. Would you help me?
11. You make me want to be a better partner. Would you help me help you?
12. Here are the things I love about the way you mother our kids:
13. You deserve a break. Please go do whatever you want to do today. As our children are also MY children, I will happily care for them without a hint of incompetence (or whisper of the word “babysit”).
14. Even if you can’t see it now, what you’re doing for our children is shaping their eternal future and changing the world. You are a conqueror, Mom-Warrior.
15. You always put us first. Thank you. Let us serve you today. (Also, we’ll try harder not to run all over you on the other days.)
16. I’m for you.
17. I’m with you.
Anything you’d add to the list moms?